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Jesse A.'s avatar

Thanks for taking the time to answer my question! I love the way you talk about friendship, sociality, and (if I may extend it slightly) community as a foundation of religious life. I don't share some of your theology around marriage or grace, but the idea that living a religious life in relationship with other people is central to our relationship to God resonates deeply. Communal prayer, but also shared meals on the Sabbath and holiday gatherings are so central to a my religious life, and build a space where we are acting as servants of God in daily life. Especially as a person who moved to a new community shortly before lockdown began, I'm very much feeling the absence of those physically proximate friendships, and it has an impact on my religious observance in small powerful ways.

On the other hand, I'm still struggling with this idea of the city as hostile to religious life. I recognize that as a symbol of contemporary commercial, secular life, the way it commodifies identity and self, the city is very powerful. A place of loneliness among teeming millions, of spiritual isolation and poverty. And yet, this was not my experience of living in cities. Religious community in cities is some of the most vibrant and powerful I've ever seen. Cities are full of people looking for community, and for God, and they build spaces and relationships that reflect their search. Cities are full of communities, overlapping and fertile. The idea of the atomizing modern city, though not false, is only part of the story. In terms of creating time and space for prayer and religious life, cities are far more successful than suburbs (I've spent no time in rural communities, so I can't speak to those). I can only speak to my experience within Judaism here, so I apologize if this isn't universal (though I very strongly suspect that believers of other religious groups will have similar examples). Look at a block of office buildings in a city with a large Jewish population in the winter when the sun sets early and you will be able to find a prayer quorum praying the afternoon service. Search those same districts during the fall, and on the holiday of Sukkot (Feast of Tabernacles) you'll be able to track down a sukkah or two where observant Jews can eat a meal while observing the requirement to do so in a temporary dwelling. Obviously, this has to do with concentrations of observant Jews, and there are large cities where you won't find these things. But precisely because cities are large, dense and diverse they provide opportunity for like minded folks who care about building religious community to find each other and create their own space and time, whether with co-workers and office mates or neighbors. The administration of the city may not be as conducive as we would like to religious life and community (though I think it's far less hostile than you and Fr. Danielou's make it seem), but the space and structure of the city are extremely friendly to building them.

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I love this formulation of “consecratable space.” I’ve definitely enjoyed living and working on a college campus over the past few years where meditation rooms and other contemplative spaces (including gardens and a nondenominational chapel) have always been available to me for prayer between classes. Much of the time that prayer was solitary, but occasionally I’d end up sharing prayer space with someone who’d come to the room to meditate, pray with a different tradition from mine, or just have lunch in peace. I came to really love that “airport-chapel” vibe and didn’t experience it as “generic” so much as ecumenical. Planning ecumenical encounters is hard, but facilitating them, it turns out, is actually pretty easy. But all of that is much more doable on a college campus than other types of workplaces - as Leah says, I’d much rather have an office job actually respect my lunch hour than provide a contemplative break room to eat it in.

Anyway, those campus spaces are all closed during the pandemic, so I’ve gone back to an older habit of mine: praying in cemeteries. Cemeteries, like parks, are free, open city spaces that lend themselves to solitary prayer, communal prayer, and sociality alike. They are also good places to invite people to perform the spiritual work of mercy that is praying for the living and the dead. I remember coming across an Orthodox Christian ministry that maintained cemeteries as a way of fulfilling the corresponding corporal work of mercy, burying the dead. You don’t need to have known somebody in their earthly life to clean off their grave, bring flowers and say a Rosary for their soul! And like I said, during pandemic times when we’re all thinking about death more than we might have, this is a good, concrete thing to do (a) outside (b) together (c) to face this moment head-on.

tldr memento mori. I honestly think grief brings people together in prayer more than anything else these days and I’m not so sure that’s a bad thing.

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